It appears to me that there are MANY confused women on the social networking sites. “Confused about what?” you may ask. They are confused about their self-identification of themselves as good, Black women. Now of course we have our general ideas of what constitutes this-she must be well-mannered, agreeable, socially accepted, possess good character, etc. The part that seems to catch a lot of these women up however is having a clean(er) public perception. Unfortunately they have single-handedly committed self-sabotage!
You know these types. She’s the woman who LOOKS physically very attractive and it’s obvious she’s well spoken, yet nearly every single post is about how some random guy has done her dirty. She’s forever ranting and raving about how she trusted some man with this or believed some lie about that and the next thing you know, she’s broadcasting to the Internet how slighted she feels.
Honestly, my heart goes out to these types. I can’t act like it’s not salty to be lied to-it reflects a severe lack of respect. The part that trips me up however is the fact that these types will take to the facebook, myspace and twitter airwaves to tell the whole world about this ridiculous drama (that the man will NEVER acknowledge) and then follow it up with the infamous, “I’m a good, Black woman.”
If every single time I log onto these sites and I’m reading about your misfortune with the opposite sex, you appear to be everything BUT a good, Black woman. If you’re SO good, why are our Black men finding it so easy to disrespect you? Surely if your goodness is THAT obvious, disrespecting you would be the VERY last thing on a man’s mind. As Proverbs 18:22 will always state, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” A man knows a good thing when he sees it-if you’re not portraying anything good (i.e. drama-filled, male-bashing posts), he will not treat you like you’re anything good. It’s that simple. Seriously.