I Would LOVE To Live This Life Within Ten Years (dead serious)

               If you’re as addicted to her blog as I am, then you were already at http://www.shelbystonesteel.com yesterday and saw her article on housewives she published.  I IMMEDIATELY fell in love because being a housewife perfectly encapsulates my life’s dream.  For some women, I see how they would feel stifled/smothered, but for myself I believe it would be the exact opposite.  I feel bad at times admitting to this because people act like it’s selling myself so short (remember my “maid/nanny” days?  smh) but I believe the real tragedy would lie in not making this a reality. 

The overall image/look I’d like to have as a housewife…this is Dorothy Dandridge though

 

* The below article was taken from www.shelbystonesteel.com *

Things You’ll Need:

Your own house
A partner and/or children
Patience

Instructions:

1. Start with your personal self. Rise an hour early, before the rest of your family, and take a warm shower{not hot-don’t want to scald your skin!}, using a fragrant soap or bodywash. Dress in appropriate clothing, tight enough to show off your feminine figure, and loose enough to be practical. Spray a favourite scent in front of you, then walk into it, giving you a slight, alluring scent that won’t be harsh on anyone’s nose! For makeup, stick with creamy foundation, a mild rosy blush and light eye makeup. Pin your hair up into a pretty yet practical style. The point is to make your husband/partner admire your ability to be beautiful the second he wakes.  After this is completed, wake the children {if you have any}. Get them organised for showers and dressing, and to collect their homework from the previous night.

2. He will be awake at this point, so while he showers and shaves, swiftly prepare a non-greasy but filling breakfast for yourselves. Aim to create something new every few days, for example, bacon and eggs on toast one morning, mushroom omelette the next. When he is dressed and seated at the table, and before he reads his paper or turns on the tv, tell him what you have planned for dinner that night, and ask him for any suggestions he may have. This lets him know you care about his opinion and input, which is essential for any healthy relationship.  Slip in little things like “I know you like mushrooms, so I thought a mushroom and beef stew would be good for dinner tonight?”

3. While he is eating, prepare his lunch and a few snacks for the day. Pack something filling, nutritious AND tasty. If you’re lucky enough to have children, now is the time to pack their lunches too. If he is on any medication, or has any specific needs for that day, e.g: You know he has a cold, so pack a few aspirin and a handkerchief. Pay close attention to his needs, and when you use that knowledge to attend to him, he will be happy…and when my husband is happy, I’m happy!

4. Depending on who leaves the house first, kiss your husband and children goodbye. Wish him a good day and let him know that you’re proud of how hard he works, and ask him if there is anything he wants done today. If he says, for example, “I have no clean socks”, apologise for not noticing, and promise to wash them the second he goes to work. Even if you don’t touch them for a few hours, he leaves the house with peace of mind that he can come home to clean socks and a wife that remembers his needs.
Once everyone has left the house, clear the breakfast dishes and wipe the sink and benchtop down.

Now is the time to wrap a scarf around your hair and don an apron and gloves. Start with clothing. Find all the dirty clothing and wash it, then dry it outside if possible. It gives a nicer, fresher smell. While they are washing, change over the bedsheets and give them a light spritz of his favourite perfume. Iron and fold the clothing. Pick up the general mess, and sort it into it’s appropriate places. Wipe dust from shelves, put on a pair of your highest high heels and pay close attention to all the places that you can now see- these are the places your husband will notice!

Mop and vaccuum the floors {obviously, only mop the tiles or vinyl floors!}.
Open the windows and sit a vase of fresh flowers or spring of lavender in front of each window.  A great trick for the room closest to the front door is, later in the day, to bake {yes, handmake!} a loaf of bread, and place it to cool on an open window ledge near the front door.  As soon as he enters, he gets that ultimate homely comfort smell- warm, soft, hand baked bread.  It makes a perfect tool to relax him after a long hard day, and he won’t even know it!

* I’d probably use this time to write a bit.  I can’t lose myself now! 🙂 *

5. Next, cook yourself a small, quick meal. As you eat, you can relax outside, watch a tv show or call a friend. Your cleaning is all done, so if you’re making dinner, do it now before the children get home.  The instant they do get home, get them into a bath, dressed in clean clothes and doing their homework at the kitchen table. You can provide assistance and keep an eye on them as you cook- two jobs in one!

Let them play or watch tv before your husband gets home, so that they are calm and relaxed to greet their father.

Let him unwind with warmed slippers and dressing gown {clothes dryer for a few minutes!} in his favourite chair, and ask him, with genuine interest, how his day was. Give comments, always supporting him, such as “Oh darling, how terrible! But don’t worry, I baked your favourite apple crumble!” After dinner, play a boardgame or have a ‘show and tell’, where each family member tells something interesting they learnt or experienced that day, ending with a discussion on current events and news. Send the children to bed with hugs and kisses to their parents, let them know they are loved and their love is appreciated in return.

6. Head to the bedroom and make sure it looks and smells nice. Turn back the covers so he only need slip between the covers. Take down your hair, clean off your makeup, and get into a nice, clean nightdress or better yet, nothing at all. *wink*When he goes to bed, offer a massage, or gently stroke his hair. If he wants to discuss anything, listen to him and let him know you’re listening.

Tips & Warnings
Despite what the feminists say, as a housewife, you are not a slave, nor a sex object, nor is he entitled to beat you or abuse you or your children in any way- physically, mentally or emotionally. It is not fair to assume ‘housewife’ is the same thing as ‘doormat.’ We are proud of our abilities to keep a household in perfect order!

http://www.ehow.com/how_4661671_be-perfect-vintage-housewife.html

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6 thoughts on “I Would LOVE To Live This Life Within Ten Years (dead serious)

  1. To me the feminist movement was about choices and not just for women. So you could be a man and get paternity leave and stay at home if you wanted. Or you could be a woman and stay at home if that’s your choice there’s no shame in it. Just like there should be no shame in it for the women who wouldn’t feel fulfilled if they didn’t pursue a career outside of the home. I never felt like the feminist movement was against women being a housewife, unless being a housewife was your only option. That’s where the problem was/is. If you are being told that you can only be in one lane and that lane isn’t your speed.

  2. I know it couso! And Lekeisha, I completely agree with you. However if you look at my post a few days back where I mentioned I had wanted to be a maid/nanny growing up and was slammed for it, I don’t always feel comfortable admitting that this is all I’d want to ultimately become.

  3. I COULD GET WITH THE HOUSEWIVE THING FOR A LIMITED AMOUNT OF TIME. I ACTUALLY WANT TO DO IT BEFORE MY KIDS ARE OLD ENOUGH TO GO TO SCHOOL. DAYCARE IS NOT SOMETHING I WANT MY KIDS TO EXPERIENCE (NOT TO MENTION, IM NOT INTERESTED IN EXPERIENCING THE BILL EITHER!). BUT IM SURE I WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO DO IT FOREVER. I WOULD BE AFRAID THAT I WOULD LOSE MY OWN IDENTITY AND INTERESTS. I WOULD ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON FOR MYSELF.

  4. I LOVE this!!! Totally the life I’d like to live. I’m a supporter. That’s my personality… I feel like I’d fit this role perfectly. I can’t wait!

  5. I feel you Simon’e. That’s one thing I LOVE about my writing is the fact that it’s something I can do whenever, wherever. I really think I’m gonna pursue this thing…

    And V, you and me both! Haha remember your fb group back in the day, “Future Soccer Mom’s of America?” we were proud members!

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