Earlier last year I was watching tv when one of eHarmony’s numerous commercials aired. They were advertising for a free connection weekend that had started that Friday and would be lasting until that upcoming Monday. I was kind of salty that I was unable to take full advantage of the offer since it was already Saturday night-I’d just missed out on two full days of possible matches.
I quickly found my way to a computer and began signing up (quit judging me). It sounds a LOT easier than it actually was. eHarmony had an EXTREMELY detailed and lengthy questionnaire (100+ questions) that asked about everything it seemed. Some questions were obviously necessary such as, “Are you a smoker?” Others were a bit redundant-how many ways can you ask me if I consider myself to be a “kind/generous/caring/genuine person?”
After finally hitting my last “Continue” button I anxiously sat, awaiting to see my possible matches. I was met with this message:
“eharmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that the participants fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.”
Salty. Who really knows why I wasn’t accepted though-it could’ve been anything. Maybe I was/am too bossy? Too dominating? Too aggressive? I will admit, at times I can behave like the stereotypical Black women who is unbending/uncompromising. I have been known to demand “my” way on several occassions. Eek!
Today I signed up again, wondering if I would receive the same disclaimer. They found matches for me this go around. If at any time in the future I decide to pursue any of them (i.e. I become desperate) I’ll definitely keep you folks updated! 🙂 lol