Marsha Ambrosius has been getting a LOT of love lately. While this amazing singer started out as half of the English duo known as Floetry, she’s now become the most popular new solo artist out right now. With the release of her debut album, Late Nights & Early Mornings this past Tuesday, she’s shed light on a very sensitive topic in the Black community.
Non-flamboyant, male homosexuality.
Her second single from the album, “Far Away” speaks to a love that while starting off was burning strong but it has now faded-the other person is so far away. It’s sad actually. When listening to the melodic harmonies of the piano and Marsha’s soothing falsetto it carries you away to another place…she makes you remember that love that you may have shared with someone that now seems so far away…
As I sing along with the lyrics, I always picture Marsha with her love, hanging out and vibing strong until one day life’s distractions tear them apart, despite Marsha fighting to hang on, in a desperate attempt to hold on to the loving memories she and her partner once shared.
Then I saw the music video.
When picturing the song from Marsha’s point of view, the distraction to the relationship was a gay relationship. Her man left her for another man! Then, because of societal pressures, her ex-boyfriend committed suicide by overdosing on pills!? Woooord!?
I’m angry. My heart is hurting for Marsha and severe anger towards the man. How can you date women and men? Why did you not figure that out before you decided to sweep a woman off of her feet? The part that really got me is how the ex-boyfriend and his new boyfriend did not fit the stereotype of what “gay” looks like to me. They had a nice swag in their step, dressed well and didn’t have “limp” wrists. That’s scary because these are men that I see every day, that my girls and I date. These are the men that are gay? Or are straight until they try the other side and decide they like it better? Or play both sides and sometimes tell us, and sometimes don’t?
Maybe I’m angry because it’s disrupted my idea of what “gay” is. I don’t understand it (as I once believed I did) and do we not hate what we do not know? She pushed the limits with this latest video and I’m now beyond uncomfortable. I hate it.
A few of my followers on twitter are discussing the video today…many feel very sad and even shed a few tears. I wonder if anyone else is actually angry about it like me though.