Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That!

This morning I woke up and it was just one of those days.  My hair had a large part to do with that.  The longer it’s gotten, the more difficult it’s become for me to deal with.  It no longer stays detangled, hydrated or defined for days on end.  It loses it’s shape within hours, the moisture I spend so much time sealing in is depleted after one night’s sleep (and yes, I exclusively sleep on satin).  Don’t get me started on the frizz and shrinkage with zero definition that occurs after Day 1…I. Can’t. Deal.

Today was day 3 hair and with one look in the mirror, I immediately became discouraged.

disaster hair 1


Suddenly, a pair of scissors and a relaxer look like the answer to all my problems.


disaster hair 2

The tumbleweed that was looking back at me didn’t care.  It stood up defiantly, determined to have it’s way with me.

After a hot shower’s mist took affect, with some added Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie, my hair has lived to see another day.

disaster hair 3

While I claim victory in this battle, I must remember the war is not yet won.


Hair Crush

Swedish model Sabina Karlsson's phenomenal red-hued mane!

I am indeed a victim of love at first sight.

I won’t be cutting my hair anytime soon.

Sabina on Sweden's Next Top Model, Cycle 3

After seeing the above photo I decided to do some research on Ms. Sabina.  It turns out she is biracial, of Swedish and Gambian nationalities, and standing at six feet tall, participated in Cycle 3 of Sweden’s Next Top Model.  A couple of years ago she transitioned to plus-sized modeling by signing a contract with Ford.

Sabina as a "plus" sized model. O_o.

There’s A Science Behind My (Hair) Madness

"Bad" hairstyle that became good


I’ve always allowed my hair’s behavior to determine my overall mood for the day.  As long as I’m having a phenomenal hair day there’s not much that can bring me down.  When my hair’s being wack, I tend to get slightly depressed.  Thank God I don’t have many genuinely BAD hair days.  I’ve learned enough tricks over the years to save just about any foul hair day.

Because of that, I was overjoyed when recently I came across The Psychology Behind a “Good Hair Day” by Vivian Diller, Ph.D on The Huffington Post.  Dr. Diller asserts the belief that hair most definitely plays a major roll in our self esteem.  She delves into five different perspectives on how our hair impacts it…

  • Historically
  • Developmentally
  • Aesthetically
  • Self Esteem
  • Beauty for the Ages

And all this time yall thought I was being “extra” or trippin!  Smh.

The full article can be found below.

The Psychology Behind a “Good Hair Day” by Vivian Diller, Ph.D.

Are you having “a good hair day”? Seems like a simple, even silly, question coming from a psychologist whose work is about getting underneath the surface. But in all honesty — superficial or not — I have to say I’m familiar with that feeling. And having recently been asked to consult for a company about their new line of hair care products, I began thinking about the psychology behind “a good hair day.”

Most of us accept that looks matter. We know that our appearance impacts our personal, social and professional lives. We also know that how we feel influences how we look and vice versa — a phenomena I call beauty self-esteem. Although we’d like to believe “what is inside counts most,” scientific evidence, as well as common sense, tells us that an appealing appearance, good health and hygiene positively impacts our lives.
So, what role does hair play in our self-esteem? Does the attention focused on quarterback Tom Brady or actress Jennifer Aniston, say something about the psychological power behind this particular physical asset? To answer this question, I approach it from several different perspectives.

1) Historically — Keep in mind that the role hair has played in people’s self-image goes way back to ancient history. As long ago as Greek and Roman times, elaborate wigs were signs of status and wealth. Beautiful hair was associated with royalty, worn like a crown. Cleopatra was famous for her thick, black locks. Samson’s long hair symbolized supernatural strength.  During American Colonial times, upper class men and women wore white, curly wigs. Political figures and judges also adorned them as a sign of wisdom and sophistication. With decorative, attractive hair being highly valued throughout history, it’s likely it will continue to impact how we view ourselves today.

2) Developmentally — Another way to understand the psychology behind hair is to note its role biologically. For example, we instinctively view babies born with thick hair as heartier than those are with little or none. As children grow, we continue to see hair growth as a signal of good health. For adolescent boys, early facial hair is associated with virility, and on teen girls with signs of fecundity. Luscious thick hair is often equated with female sensuality and sexuality. Likewise, as we enter midlife, thinning or losing hair is associated with aging, loss of health, decreased fertility and virility.

3) Aesthetically — Hair frames the face, the feature considered most important in terms of first impressions. Faces generally are viewed as playing a greater role than bodies when it comes to attraction between people. Following a person’s smile, eyes and skin, their hair is often the next feature people notice on first encounters. It is among the top three features — along with height and weight — used when describing others and one of the feature most often recalled after a social interaction occurs.

4) Self-Esteem — Our sense of attractiveness is strongly connected to confidence and positive self-esteem. Many men and women associate confidence with feeling in control, and hair is one way most of us can be in charge. For example, hair can be altered through cutting, coloring and highlighting, but controlled through straightening, curling and styling. Styled, well-kept hair gives us the external appearance of being well managed and it can contribute to feeling that way internally. Some people say that a manicure or pedicure creates a similar sense of feeling in control.
5) Beauty for the Ages — As people get older, they inevitably feel loss in a number of ways — decrease in strength, flexibility, height, cognition and acuity. Even people in very good health are faced with dealing with changes that are inevitable. Although hair loss, thinning and graying are natural consequences for most aging people, a lot can be done, without too much time, effort or money to enhance hair style. Unlike surgical and cosmetic interventions that are used to update other physical features (e.g., lasers, face lifts, tummy tucks, teeth implants), enhancements to our hair are much less radical, and yet they can make a huge difference in how we feel about our aging appearance.

So, why does a “good hair day” matter? The answer lies in all the reasons above. Our looks matter and hair matters a lot in our general sense of attractiveness. With so many unknowns surrounding us in today’s complicated world, it is nice to know that a good hair day is a simple, yet deeply “rooted’ solution to our desire to look and feel good at any age.

Tell us what a “good hair day” means to you.

The New Answer to an Old Hair Question/Problem: L.O.C.

Lately my hair has been incredibly dry.  I know that one answer is to apply more moisturizers daily but I don’t have that sort of discipline with my hair.  Remembering to apply certain oils on specific days and tying my hair up in certain ways is honestly too much for me to maintain.  I am a simple girl who likes a basic routine.

As a result the past few days I’ve been researching a better, easier way to not only get moisture into my hair, but keep it there.  For awhile I’ve been a subscriber to “oil sealing.”  In a nutshell it’s using whatever water/moisturizers you want on your hair then applying oil last, as a means of sealing all of the moisture in.  The science behind it is the oil molecules are larger than the water/moisturizers so they will block the moisture from getting out.  While it sounds great, it doesn’t last me much longer than a day or so.  My hair is left feeling dry after a few hours.

Thank goodness I have now come across the L.O.C. (liquid, oil, cream) method created by Chicoro, the author of Grow It.  The LOC method is implemented by

  1. Applying water or aloe-based liquid
  2.  Applying oil
  3. Applying cream

The science behind LOC is that the oil will seal in the water, and then the cream will sit on top and slowly over time seep into the hair strand, delivering moisture on an as-needed basis.  After washing and conditioning my hair, I’ve been applying a quarter-sized amount of grapeseed or extra virgin olive oil on my hair (focusing on my ends) and finishing it with a leave-in conditioner.

Honestly, I don’t really care a whole lot about the science behind any of the different methods.  I’m just concerned about results.  I have to say that in this crazed, bi-polar weather, utilizing the LOC method has given my hair new moisture that it maintains for several days.  I have juicy curls with no greasy/oily feeling afterwards!  My hair is once again soft, manageable and looks a lot healthier (it will take more time to figure out if it actually is healthier).  I am a happy camper and it’s something I’ll be doing until my hair says otherwise.

Juicy, moisturized hair for multiple days


Guiness Book of World Records Came Callin! You Think I DIDN’T Answer?!?!

By now I’m sure you’ve heard about the unfortunate news regarding Don Cornelius.  Care to join me for a moment of silence?  Great.

*moment of silence*

No doubt that man affected so many of our lives.  It didn’t suprise me one bit too log onto Facebook a few days later and saw that a friend I’ve met up here was attending a flash mob in Times Square to be apart of the largest Soul Train line ever, in tribute of Don.  I looked up the date and time and made a commitment to be there.  After sending out a text message to my family and close friends, I blew out my hair into a massive afro to get in the spirit and made moves to Midtown…

My girl on the right indirectly told me about it. My girl on the left came with 🙂

This past Saturday wound up being an awesome time, in true Soul Train fashion!  I danced my butt off, met up with my family (Shelby and Mike, hey yall!) and created memories that will undoubtedly mark one of my best days spent in this city thus far.  And of course I ultimately managed to finagle my way through the chaotic crowd and got my 5 seconds of shine spinning and twirling down the Soul Train line….

I can be spotted at the 0:21 and 1:26 markers.  Yanceys/Stones/Adams/Lightfoots, I put on for us! Haha 🙂

I’ve been told that this event has been recorded with the Guinness Book of World Records team as the largest Soul Train line ever.  Unfortunately, the swagger jackers that exist in Atlanta, GA are attempting to compete.  A sorority sister of mine sent me a picture of this email blast that’s being circulated down there as I type.

They are rallying their troops to break NYC's record.

NYC is a tough bunch of people.  I dare Atlanta to try it.  I bet up here, we’ll be right back at it the next week to break whatever they attempt to build.

Yeah, I said it!

NYC: The Biggest, Small City EVER

In a city like NYC, everyone understands the importance of “networking.”  It’s vital to your success to know people.  Unfortunately, “networking” doesn’t come naturally to someone like me.  While I am quite social and love to talk (lol), engaging in lengthy conversations with random people I’ve never met is intimidating to say the least.  I hate doing it.

Thankfully, in this city I have been able to get away with no networking (meaning I’ve yet to show up to an event and “try” to network).  On the flip side, EVERY SINGLE TIME I step out for fun, social gatherings I’ve found myself connecting with people in new, interesting ways.

For example…

Earlier this summer I attended an anniversary party for BklynQueens, a women’s vintage clothing store.  I’d heard about it back in Ohio because Azure’D, my sorority sister, attended high school with Keira, the founder.

While there I bumped into Jessica, my sorority sister who is also my ADP (she was the assistant to the dean of my chapter’s 2006 pledge class)!  Would you believe that Keira and Jessica are best friends?  They are all from Columbus, Ohio!

"You had me at hello!" lol

So yeah, I’m at the anniversary party and this woman comes in with the TALLEST.  HAIR.  EVER.  Like, I’ve never seen anything like it.  She definitely stood out because of her hair’s awesomeness.  There was SO MUCH one had to question it’s authenticity, like “Is that even real?”  She and I chatted for a few and I learned that she’d been natural for five years (if my memory serves me correctly).  We later became facebook friends and I discovered she has her own vintage and natural-hair inspired blog,

It wasn’t until several weeks later I was watching television when I saw her in this KMart commercial…

Wow!  I’m telling you, it’s a small world out here!